Lessons from Yesteryears

Dear Readers

This has been long boiling in me, but was too tied up to pen it down. Finally today I can stand it no more and have to write anyhow. My thoughts are foggy with so much to deliver and discuss.

We all during the natural phenomenon of growing up knowingly or otherwise experience so many things which mold us to be what we are, from insignificant trivia to remarkable episodes.

This column will be about important lessons that I have learned during the course of my growing years. They have all contributed in me becoming what I am today. So all those who think I am a good human being, I am hardly to credit. There are so many out there who have left a mark on me and have shaped me in my current form. 

My favorite lesson till date has been from a close school friend Vriti Sharma. I have hardly seen her after my college days but we still manage to catch up on phone at times. I remember it vaguely....something had happened while in school and everybody held me responsible. She was one of those who agreed with me when I said it was not my fault. As a kid I had learnt that at times saying sorry was the safest bet. In order to avoid conflicts I agreed to say sorry. It was then that I learnt this for life She came to me and very humbly asked if I genuinely felt sorry. " Are you out of your mind, of course not, you know I am not a party". "Then why do you want to make your conscience weak". Those words still echo in my mind. Sorry is such a small word, at times we do not even think twice before saying it. It has almost become a fad to say sorry and forget it. How many times do we actually mean it. More than that we just say it for the heck of saying. 

Today I realize this restraint has made me a stronger person. I do not say sorry now till the time I am sure I am at fault. Other way round, I do not even hesitate to accept my mistakes. Because I know what Sorry is all about. There is no fear, feeling of subservience or inferiority when I accept my mistakes. In fact it has made me more magnanimous in ignoring others' mistakes. 

The lesson has had far reaching impact on me. I am a more strong, accomodating and confident person now. I know accepting mistakes is tough job and hence take utmost care not to repeat it. I have learnt never to say SORRY without being at fault.

Thank you Vriti.

I am sure all of us had similar expereinces. Why not add to these lessons and make this a learning chain. After all it is never too late to learn. What say!!!